If you have been looking for information about how to get your ex back just about any advice you find always includes the recommendation for a “cooling off” period which can last anywhere from a month or longer.

So why is this such an important step if you are serious about wanting to get back together with your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend?

Giving yourself a cooling off period allows you to get a handle on your emotional state and ride out the desperate, panicky feelings you may be experiencing right now.

And it’s important to allow yourself time to recover from the intense emotions that always surround a break up. You may still be very raw from the experience and this makes it harder to avoid all the major mistakes that make it much more difficult to get back together with your ex.

Taking a step back also gives you a chance to look at what went wrong in the relationship and what needs to change, a necessary thing to understand if you want to be smart about getting your ex back.

Now you may be worried that if you don’t take action right now to show your ex that you still really care you might lose them forever. The truth is this will only make your ex more upset right now.

So although your initial reaction to the break up may be to try and stay in contact, it will only do more damage to the situation right now. You have probably heard the phrase “absence makes the heart grow fonder.” Well if you want to get your ex back you need to give them a chance to miss you first, and how can that happen if you won’t leave them alone?

And even if your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend takes up with someone else for awhile the majority of rebound relationships fail so if you are biding your time and following the right strategy this will only put the odds even more in your favor when it’s time for you to make your move.

You want your ex to feel like you respect them, that you understand their concerns, and begin to miss you. Taking a real break allows all of these things to happen. Giving your ex the room they need to breath right now also helps you to appear more mature, calm, and collected, even if you aren’t there yet, and these are all attractive qualities in a mate. And it will be much easier to reopen healthy lines of communication when there’s been some time and distance between you both.

So use this cooling off period to your advantage. Get your emotions back together and start to work on the areas you need to change and then it will be time to begin planning a smarter strategy to get your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend back into your life.

About the Author:

Hi I’m Claire Tourney. Use this cooling off period to your advantage and avoid the big blunders many people make in trying to get their ex back. Check out my site and discover a successful, PROVEN plan for How To Get Your Ex Back-The Smart Way!

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